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What has motherhood taught you?

Being a mom is a learning experience

Today I reflected on what motherhood has taught me. The list is truly endless but here are the topmost contenders.

Live in the moment

Motherhood has taught me to experience every moment with wonder and joy. My son exudes infectious joy whenever he sees a duck with her babies in the pond, watches fish swimming in the lake, or even looks at the crashing waves by the sea. The ability to be mesmerized by the present moment my son is experiencing has inspired me to live in the moment when experiencing simple yet profound daily moments. Little kids live in a poetic world where everything is fresh and new. Their pure ability to focus on what's in front of them is truly inspiring in our digital age.

Have a growth mindset

Being a mom gives me a premium seat to the beautiful growth mindset that young kids naturally have. For them, there is no shame in not knowing, and the learning experience is all fun and games. They readily admit to their inexperience and are eager to learn, albeit on their own terms. We, the adults introduce the fixed mindset and all the anxieties that come with it yet, we are lifelong learners. There's always something new to be mastered. Whether it's new technology, retooling our careers, or a fun hobby, approaching our daily learning opportunities with a child's growth mindset will make us so much more ready to learn and soak up information without judging ourselves or others for being mere novices. Let's model this growth mindset back to our kids so that they never grow out of it!

Be unapologetically authentic

Our little ones have mastered the art of authentic self-expression. My son particularly openly shows his feelings without feeling concerned about public appearances. There's something beautiful about this genuine earnestness. In fact I find myself gravitating towards adults who openly yet kindly express their authentic self. To me, the ability to live so boldly is so admirable and is a goal I aspire to every day. Truly, there's no shame in feeling our deepest emotions, processing them through healthy outlets, and genuinely expressing them to those we love and trust. The fear of rejection has made us adults too cautious around each other, yet we would all benefit from genuine, pure, child-like authenticity. Let's learn to ask for what we need without shaming ourselves for being 'too needy.'

Embrace your inner kid

Seeing the world through my son's eyes always reminds me that I am still a child at heart. We all have an inner kid, regardless of our age. So the secret to exuding genuine child-like joy is nurturing your inner kid. It's seriously important to learn the concept of self-parenting so that as we parent and nurture our little ones, we also do not forget to extend that grace to ourselves. Just like our little ones, our own inner kids sometimes feel vulnerable and crave a little extra nurturing. To curtail a full-blown tantrum in ourselves like we do with our little ones, we need to let ourselves get rest, eat nutritious meals, and attend to our spiritual needs. We need to apply unconditional and irrevocable self-love to ourselves as we do to our babies. Even as we hold ourselves accountable by having high discipline standards and working towards our personal or professional growth goals, we need to parent our inner kid through the journey.

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